Directions: Read each situation below, examine the You-Message below each situation and think of what your I-Message would be--or even grab a pen and paper and write them down. When you have finished, compare your I-Messages with those in the scoring key at the bottom of this page-and hey, no cheating! :)
"I can't see the TV and play too. I really feel irritated when I can't have a little while alone to relax and watch the news."
"I am in a big rush and it really makes me angry to be slowed down by replacing the plug. I don't feel like playing when I have work to get done."
"I can't enjoy my dinner when I see all that dirt. It makes me kind of sick and lose my appetite."
"Mom and I have something very important to discuss. We can't talk about it when you're here and we don't like waiting until you finally go to bed."
"I don't feel very much like doing something for you when you don't stick to your agreement about cleaning your room."
"I'm sorry to see you be so unhappy but I don't know how to help because I don't know why you're feeling so blue."
"I feel kind of cheated. I want to spend some time with your father and the noise is driving us mad."
"I really feel let down. I've worked all day to get ready for our party and now I still have to worry about the dirty bathroom."
"I don't like it when I carefully plan my day so we can shop for your new clothes and then you don't show up."